What do women want? “Orgasms,” said Kevin Walker, Kansas City, Kan., junior. But when it comes to relationships, women are definitely looking for more than just that. In fact, some women do not want anything sexual at all.
“I’m Catholic and I’m waiting until marriage,” said Diana Toro, Leavenworth freshman.
Toro is in a serious relationship and is content with the monogamy. Many women want the clarity of a monogamous relationship, but there are also women who enjoy the muddiness of not having a completely defined relationship, including me. The fact that our generation can’t exactly define a “relationship” only makes it harder to pinpoint exactly what women want.
Bonnie Croisant, Humboldt junior, said that when it comes to choosing an undefined relationship or a monogamous relationship, it depends. Cara Thiele, Leavenworth junior, who recently got out of a five-year relationship, said that although she would normally prefer a monogamous relationship, she is definitely not against having an open one. Although women aren’t always 100 percent sure of what kind of relationship they want, they know exactly what they want from the relationship.
Every woman I have talked to, single or attached, agreed that they want to have fun in a relationship, but no relationship can be based solely on fun.
Women want loyalty and honesty.
-Evan Leitnaker, Olathe freshman
“Women want loyalty and honesty,” said Evan Leitnaker, Olathe freshman. He is actually right in the case of many women. Kelsea Pepper, Topeka sophomore, who is single, and Monica Garza, Dallas sophomore, who is “on a break but still kind of together,” both agreed that they want trust, honesty and loyalty in a relationship. In a long distance relationship, Rachel Samuelson, Overland Park freshman, stressed that mutual trust, loyalty and respect were very important.
Although Leitnaker knew what many women wanted in relationships, when asked what women wanted in bed he said he didn’t know.
Women aren’t just looking for orgasms or head. Many women actually want the same things in bed as they do in a relationship. When it comes to the sexual part of a relationship, Thiele said that she just wants fun. Mind-blowing, pleasurable, passionate sex is not what women need to be satisfied. Sometimes, just having a fun experience is more than enough to leave a girl fulfilled. However, just like in relationships, no sexual connection can be based exclusively on fun.
“Understanding and communication are important,” Samuelson said. Being comfortable enough to talk about sex is something women want in any relationship.
Although women may not always know if their relationship status should be single, taken, dating, open or complicated, women do know what they want from their relationships. Women want to have fun in and out of the bedroom, and for some, this includes orgasms.
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