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"O-M-G! Like, no way. I can't believe he moved you out of his top eight on his Myspace," I said in a dramatized Valley Girl accent to my distressed friend after she dished her latest boyfriend drama. I realize that comes off as insensitive but I was trying to emphasize on how immature our conversation was getting.
My friend constantly is freaking out over little things like moving from No. 1 to the third "top friend."
You may be thinking this is another rambling Myspace article, but it's not. It's about relationships that stem from them.
You seem unstable if you analyze your significant other's every move. Or at least that's what one would think, but then again, what do I know? I'm still a senior in high school. I'm what you call verdant at the relationship game. Inexperienced.
My fresh insight comes from what I observe about the couples around me. Take one of my friends, for instance, who lives in a town where the only other person she knows is her ex-boyfriend.
Like all high school relationships, she thought it was going to last forever. Senior year, they were the ideal couple. The couple all other couples want to be like. They were "it."
Then one day, the boyfriend was offered a football scholarship at a small university.
What she wanted to major in wasn't even offered there. So what does she do? Applies for the same college so they can continue their romantic escapades where it will blossom into the ideal fairy-tale ending.
It didn't last.
Too many people make key decisions about their future, like classes and schools, based on that crazy thing called love.
They follow their heart and choose the unknown path in their quest to chase him or her to the University of Love.
Right now, many of my friends are applying to colleges that are wherever their current partners plan to enroll. Realistically - and it sounds horrible saying this but I'll say it anyway - those couples may not even last past prom.
Now's the time to think the world revolves around "you," and not "both of you," because when it comes to your own future and career goals, now is the time to be selfish.
Perhaps I come across as a naysayer, but the odds are pretty low that you'll be with your high school sweetheart till death do you part, much less Ring Dance.
But, there are those rare couples who have been together and stayed together and it's truly something special when that happens.
If you already are at the University of Love and suddenly feel the urge to change your major or transfer to another school, stop and question the move.
Do you really want to make another life-changing decision because of him or her?
Take some advice: Be selfish. Think of you first.
By TIFFANY TORRES
Eagle Columnist
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