Clever Copycats: Online profiles are being stolen, cut and pasted
These identity thieves don't want your money. They want your quirky sense of humor and your cool taste in music.
Among the 125 million people in the U.S. who visit online dating and social-networking sites are a growing number of dullards who steal personal profiles, life philosophies, even signature poems. "Dude u like copied my whole myspace," posts one aggrieved victim.
Copycats use the real-life wit of others to create cut-and-paste personas, hoping to land dates or just look clever.
Hugh Gallagher, a 36-year-old writer in New York, is one of the copied. Match
.com has more than 50 profiles with parts of Mr. Gallagher's college entrance essay, which he wrote nearly 20 years ago and which later appeared in Harper's Magazine. "I translate ethnic slurs for Cuban refugees" and "I write award-winning operas" are among Gallagher's most popular lines.
They worked well enough for Jim Carey, a 38-year-old pharmaceutical salesman in Bothell, Wash. He said he wanted women to know that he was funny but was too lazy to think up anything. So he copied Gallagher's essay for his online profile. A year ago, he arranged to meet a woman for drinks. She asked about his operas. He confessed. "I felt like a balloon deflating," he said.
Original souls who discover that they have been replicated said it's unethical and creepy. "I came across a guy who completely stole my profile message," posts one woman in Michigan. "I mean he had to have copied and pasted the whole thing and then just changed gender specific things to fit his own."
Online daters feel pressure to stand out and believe they must sell themselves like a product, say researchers at Georgetown, Rutgers and Michigan State universities who are conducting a joint study of them. "You are not making money off of somebody else's work; you're just trying to market yourself," said self-confessed copier Jeff Picazio, a 40-year-old computer-systems manager in Boynton Beach, Fla. After hunting for some copy-and-paste help - including borrowing the line "you will soon learn that I'm a raging egomaniac" - Picazio said he's gotten 20 dates.
A search on MySpace.com brought up more than 700 recent comments that accuse others of stealing headlines, user names, songs, background designs and entire profiles. In a recent survey of more than 400 online daters commissioned by Engage.com, 9 percent of respondents said they copied from another person's profile; 15 percent suspect their own words were stolen.
A Match.com profile of a man in Redmond, Wash., includes this postscript: "Shame on the woman who plagiarized my narrative and stole it for her profile!" And a 34-year-old woman in Basking Ridge, N.J., tacked this P.S. to her Plentyoffish.com profile: "To the girl who copied my profile - and denies it ... you s-!"
The quest for originality has spawned the services of online-dating coaches and profile writers. Some of them are victims, too. Dave Mizrachi, 34, of Miami sells an "Insider Internet Dating" course for $97. Mizrachi includes his own dating profile, advising men to use it as a guide. But at least 25 people on Match.com have stolen his lines, including: "I get a lot of women e-mailing me, (which is great for an ego boost)." One man uses Mizrachi's photo.
A recent search on Match.com brought up more than 90 profiles with such lines as: "I want an opposite. A yin to my yang," or "You know that woman who is the first person on the dance floor at every party? That's me." They weren't even from real people. They were cribbed from sample profiles posted online at E-Cyrano.com by Evan Marc Katz, a dating coach and profile writer. "It just seems so short-sighted," said Katz, of Los Angeles. "Everybody steals the same lines so they are not original anymore."
The Internet makes plagiarism anonymous and easy. Nearly half of high-school students and nearly 40 percent of college undergrads confess they copy online sources, according to surveys conducted by Donald McCabe, a founder of the Center for Academic Integrity at Clemson University in South Carolina. Stealing for appearance sake is a new twist. "People are still trying to develop a sense of how to present themselves online," said Joseph Walther, a communication professor at Michigan State University.
The book Online Dating for Dummies tells readers not to fret about copying. The
ProfileCoach.com, meanwhile, offers 12 "proven" profiles for $4. Sample: "There is a shallowness, a fakeness to much of the 'singles scene.'" A number of blogs offer free headlines for social-networking profiles, including, "Ernie's train of thought has derailed." For $50, weeklyscore.com offers 20 personal essays and 100 headlines, all updated weekly.
Thierry Khalfa said he had a good excuse to copy. His English isn't so good. Khalfa, a 44-year-old Frenchman, first cobbled a ho-hum profile that said he liked to cook and enjoyed walks on the beach. Then he stumbled across the profile of Mike Matteo, 47, a screenwriter in Tampa, Fla. Matteo's profile had such nuggets as, "I have a sweet tooth, love my strawberry twizzlers and cheesecake jelly beans."
Without thinking twice, Khalfa said, he copied Matteo's prose because it also fit him to a tee. "That guy should be proud," said Khalfa, of Largo, Fla., who runs an auto-glass business. "In France, in the fashion business, when you see something that looks good, you take it and you copy it."
Khalfa caught the eye of preschool teacher Marjorie Coon, 48. They exchanged e-mails, and Coon wanted to meet Khalfa. Then she discovered he had copied the profile of Matteo, by coincidence her friend. She let Khalfa know she knew and dumped him. "I felt he was less than honest, a manipulator and downright stupid," said Coon, of Largo, Fla. Matteo wasn't too happy, either. "I'm not Cyrano de Bergerac," he said, referring to the 19th-century play about a man penning love letters for a rival.
Some copiers are harder to figure out. Cambria Lovelady, a 31-year-old editor in Austin, Texas, went on two dull dates with a man and afterward reread his online profile. He had copied her entire "About Me" paragraph.
Tracing authorship can be complicated. Chele Frizell, a 34-year-old nurse in Dayton, Ohio, swiped a MySpace.com headline from a friend: "Those who believe in telekinesis, raise my hand." She confessed her theft in a missive to the MySpace page of Holly Payne, 34, of Hollywood. "I totally copied your headline, but in Spanish. Does that still count?" Not really. Ms. Payne stole it from the late Kurt Vonnegut.
Chris Garansi, an electrician in Rock Hill, S.C., said he has received about 10 e-mails asking permission to copy his dating profile, which is headlined, "Wanted outlaw princess." Said princess is someone who "while climbing a tree can be all woman, while letting you know she can climb higher than you would ever dare." Among Garansi's requirements: "Chunky is fine but lumpy is how I like my mashed potatoes, and rolls are only good when served with dinner." He says he refuses people who ask to copy his work. "Either they lack imagination, or they just don't know who they are," said Garansi, 43.
Online administrators said that complaints of copied profiles are rare. If a profile is sufficiently creative, its author could theoretically sue a copier under copyright law. But lawyers said it would be expensive. "As a practical matter, what you would probably try to do is try to get the site to take the copier's profile down," said Jeffrey Neuburger, of law firm Thelen Reid Brown Raysman & Steiner LLP. Some sites say they do that.
Last year, JDate.com released online dating tips, including the importance of a strong "About Me" paragraph.
Yahoo Personals provides two examples with the plea, "Don't copy these profiles exactly." But a quick search shows plenty have. A favorite among women: "If you love mushroom ravioli, romantic nights by a fire, and spring camping trips, please reply." And for men: "I guarantee I can change the oil
in your car in 10 minutes flat."
Laurie Crane said three men copied her profile, apparently thinking that it would spark her interest. One wrote, "We have a lot in common." Crane, a 43-year-old art director in Chicago, didn't date any of them. "Who knows what these guys are thinking," she said.
Finding her profile stolen angered Lavonna Short, of Sitka, Alaska. It also gave her pause. Short, a 47-year-old mental-health professional, said that the thief used every qualification she had written about her perfect mate - financially secure, able to take care of himself, not looking for a mother. It read like a shopping list, she said. "When I saw myself through someone else's eyes, I didn't like it." She rewrote her profile - more mystery, less rigidity - and found her mate.
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