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Planning a wedding entirely online means giving up perfectionism. That's a good thing.

Date: 2007-12-12

My wedding felt like a blind date.

Not with my groom, of course _ that part looked familiar. But the rest _ the
village church with the bright orange walls, the better-than-the-pictures
flowers, the 1960s-era organ _ they were all nearly as new to me as they
were to the 50 Americans I had persuaded to come to Scotland for the event.

I planned my wedding entirely online and lived to tell about it.

In fact, I'd recommend it.

Not that it was perfect. Had I known about the orange walls, I might not
have gone for purple kilts. But planning online, with a mix of shrewd,
targeted research and aimless Googling, forced me to accept something many
brides don't realize until crunch time: Perfection is overrated.

Couples spent nearly $10 billion on "destination weddings" last year,
according to Mintel, a market research firm in Chicago. No doubt much of
this expense was justified with phrases like "you only do it once" and "most
important day of my life."

Still, these same people, like me, take sizable risks with the day and the
cash. Many don't see the venue beforehand, and depend on online brochures
for information. Forty-three percent rated wedding websites as influential
in helping them pick a destination, Mintel found. More than 20 percent used
social networking sites, like MySpace, and blogs.

Theresa DiMasi, editor-in-chief of Conde Nast's Brides.com, says many of the
1 million visitors who come to that online site each month are looking for
inspiration and stay for research and community.

"I think the Internet gives you much more opportunity and accessibility to
information. You're a savvier shopper. You can hear what other people have
said about a vendor, or see people who have negotiated deals and learn from
awful experiences other brides have had," DiMasi said, adding that most
people leave the virtual world before cutting a real check.

My fiance and I would have if we could have. There are 5,000 miles and a
wallet-busting 2-to-1 exchange rate between us in Las Vegas and his
childhood home, Glasgow, our destination of choice. A planning expedition
would have blown the budget.

So my mother in Minnesota, my partner in planning, and I turned immediately
to the Internet.

We started with long sessions on the phone, each at our respective
computers, e-mailing links back and forth. A search for "Scotland wedding
venue" would lead to a link to "Inverness castles." We stopped only when we
wandered onto sites with pictures of men dressed as William Wallace.

Her neck started to hurt. My mobile phone bill skyrocketed. I taught her how
to use Instant Messenger. (Eventually, I taught her to use the space bar.)

It was slow. If something looked promising we would e-mail the venue, and
often not hear back for days. We could discuss a site for hours, without
having any idea about fees or availability.

There is another way, though I'm not convinced it's a better one.

Online wedding clearinghouses such as TheKnot.com and Brides.com, offer a
mix of planning tools, articles, and lists of ideas, registry help and
vendor directories. Both sites have budget trackers that are far easier than
an Excel spreadsheet and are accessible to anyone who knows your password,
making it easy to share with, say, your mom. The scores of photos of
dresses, flowers and place settings on these sites can be habit-forming.

But the vendor directories are filled largely with paid advertisers in the
United States _ an obvious limitation for the bride wanting to go to an
overseas or out-of-the-mainstream location.

Lacey Collins, a 24-year-old new bride from Sawyer, N.D., says she scanned
websites for photographs and tips for traveling brides, but relied on a
friend's recommendation when picking a hotel for her wedding in Puerto
Vallarta, Mexico.

"I really trust this friend," she said less than two weeks before the day.
Still, she found herself combing the hotel review site Tripadvisor.com
"probably weekly" for possible bad reviews or horror stories.

"I keep thinking, is it really that perfect? Or are these people just coming
off this great time and writing great things?" Collins said. "How can it be
this perfect?"

I know the feeling. When we found our venue _ a country estate with just
enough rooms to hold the Americans and within easy driving distance of the
Scottish relatives _ I ramped into reporter mode.

Trust, but verify.

I asked for more photos of the grounds, and got 37 back, with names and
phone numbers of references. A good sign. I trolled a British wedding
website _ Confetti.co.uk _ for reviews of my potential venue. Nothing. I
happily discovered Indiebride.com, a site for anyone vaguely uncomfortable
with the wedding industry. I was amused by the advice on how to tell your
family you're eloping, and relieved to see that no one mentioned my Scottish
estate on the site's chat page, "Kvetch."

Feeling 70 percent assured that I knew all I was going to know, and 30
percent desperate to make the decision and move on, we booked it.

And so went my planning. We relied heavily on the staff at the venue for
recommendations, and then followed up with our own research.

A recommended wedding singer sounded lovely on the mp3 on her website, but
we still asked her to sing a few selections a cappela into the telephone
before we sent a check.

The florist and I landed on my bouquet through exchanges of photos by
e-mail. (So that's what a thistle is!) We chose the wine from a list sent by
the distributor, much of which I couldn't find in our local store. Sans
tasting, we took a leap.

There were times, and that was one of them, when we felt we were missing out
on some of the fun.

And there were times when the curiosity nearly killed me.

I would have paid too much for a photo of the interior of the church that
generously opened its doors to American strangers on a busy Saturday. The
only one online was black and white. The Internet had its limits.

But had I found one, it might only have allowed me to believe that the
church decor really mattered. Orange paint, it turns out, looks pretty good
as a backdrop for photos.

Aside from the night I met my husband, it was the best blind date I've ever
had.

Source: http://www.smh.com.au/news/Technology/Planning-a-wedding-entirely-online-means-giving-up-perfectionismThats-a-good-thing/2007/12/05/1196530714568





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