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As such, I will now describe thefour levelsof relationshipswe tend to set up in our quest to find ourselves.
1. " GOING THROUGH THE MOTIONS "RELATIONSHIPS
Partners are joined by common fears and are usually
completely dependent on each other.
There is little if any passion,few risks are taken and no
real growth occurs.
Both partnershave settled for less than all of themselves~ but at thecost ofgrowth andpassion.
They tend tosee themselves as victimsand usually are spectators in life.
It is a dry creek bed waiting for the spring rain .
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2. " SAFE LOVE " RELATIONSHIPS
The ego is still in control and both partners have common dis-affinitessuch as unworthiness, fear of love and intimacy, fear of rejection,abandonment, aloneness , etc
These tend to be intense and short lived relationshipsas both partners vainly try to fill the others emotional void ~ when, in reality, they are avoiding their own emotional void. Mission impossible one and two.
As such, they are externally directed relationships .
They, in essence, eventually become enclosed in a common cocoon(a cocoon for two )where love tends to contract versus expand and mutual resentment soon replaces love.
You can be relatively happy in a " safe love " relationship ( compared to a " Going through the motions " relationship ) but joy is elusive because little, if any, growth occurs ~as both partners will not give up controland refuse to surrender.
The dry creek bed has become a stream
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3. ' SOUL MATE'OR"GREAT LOVE " RELATIONSHIPS
Soul matesand great lovescome into our life when we are ready to find and fulfill our part in the loving plan.
Great love relationships are internally directed and prepare us for the transition from ego consciousness to soul consciousness.
The ultimate aim of such a relationship is for both partners to fully emerge from their cocoons of fear and become their truest self.
This is the love that Teilhard de Chardin refers to when he wrote ; The only right love is between couples whose passion leads them both , one through the other, to a higher possession of themselves.
Thereis little room here for the Ego's need to protect and control for a great love confronts us with our deepest feelings and fears ~ and demands that we SURRENDER !
It requires us to grow beyond our fear to the place where we can both consciously and unconditionally love our partner.
It is a love that can both take hold and let go ~ for it is beyond emotional dependency .
There is tremendous joyand delight in soul mate relationships because there is no greater joy than going ( and growing ) through our fears and discovering our true self.
This love is not for the faint of heart for, indeed, many who briefly experience this fire will quickly run for cover ~ not realizing that they are actually running away from what is deepest within themselves.
Like the mothto the flame ~ once you have willingly burned in the fire of a great love ~ you will accept
nothing less .
You will then realize, as I have, that you are the fire
You are now in the river of life
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4. COSMIC RELATIONSHIPS OR ' LOVE PERFECTED '
A cosmic relationship is seldom acheived because it demands total vulnerability and mutual surrender to love.
A cosmic love is a love that transcends time and space wherein all past life connections are completed.
It is a pure love devoid of fear with ecstasy and blissits obvious symptoms.
The vibration ofthis inner connectionis so intense that it effects all who witness or come in contact with it.
In a cosmic relationship both partners become a tool for the universe to be used in a universal loving plan.
Both partners have now been dominated in their own perfection.
You are now a fragment of life's heart
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By Allen L Roland
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