When it comes to love, age is nothing but a number. For instance,
count on any of these celebrities, Tom cruise and Katie Holmes, Madonna and
Guy Ritchie, Salman Rushdie and Padma Laksmi, Michael Doughlas and Catherine
Zeta Zones, Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry.... the count is endless. Age
difference between the couple is not a big deal for many.
It has been a common belief that the strongest families are those in
which husbands are several years older than their wifes. I believe it is a
fine cultural norm in Ukraine - with five to fifteen years difference in age
on the average, and maybe more in some cases.
For most of the Ukrainian girls age of a potential partner is not that
important but a personality and compatibility. Many ladies are looking for
older men as they are considered to be more stable, experienced and definite
in their needs.
Age gap marriages can work. My husband is 20 years older than me and
we have been married for many years. Age is only a barrier if you make it
so - sometimes as an excuse for other problems. Helen C, Scotland
Recently the anthropologists started to build up a scientific
foundation for that phenomena, their findings prove a great positive impact
on the health of future generations, caused by men who have children with
considerably younger women. While such things are a matter of opinion, I do
think that tradition in general favors this norm.
The scientists from Stanford University (www.stanford.edu) studied
people who are living all over the world- from the American cities
inhabitants to the aboriginals in Paraguay, who still live in an isolated
communities and avoid the civilization.
Girls mature at an earlier age than boys and will therefore tend to
marry somewhat older men. Traditionally, it has been the men that have
provided for the family. The age differences become "minor" so to speak
(they have less significance),
The age issue is always more important to those outside the
relationship than the people concerned. Christine Donnelly, UK
Most of men can become fathers at least until they are 70 years old,
while only very few women can get pregnant and give a birth to a child after
they are 50 years old. A 90 years old Indian man Nanu Ram Yogi became a
father recently and set a world record by doing so. From those facts,
scientists make a conclusion that from the evolutionary point of view, the
age difference is more than acceptable both biologically and socially.
Considerable amounts of facts to stand for the theory made by the
Stanford University scientists are brought up by the scientists. For example
a survey in Sweden showed that the most children are born in families where
wives are at least 6 years younger than their husbands.
I feel that maturity and compatibility count much more.
By Mishael Mordinson