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Use your instincts
You can meet some fantastic people online, however, until you get to know someone well online be cautious about meeting them offline. Use your instincts to know how much personal information (for example your telephone number, address & your surname) to tell them and only agree to meet other members when you feel comfortable in doing so.
You're in control
Online dating is a great way to meet people and one of the great benefits of dating online is that you are in control of how fast or slow the relationships you develop go. Never feel obligated to meet someone face to face and only move from purely online communication when you are ready.
Starting a relationship
At the beginning of a relationship we tend to rush head long into things and not tread carefully. Build up a trust between you and the member online and take as much time as you think you will need. Trust is earned through honourable behaviour and if you feel the other member isn't being honest with you, stop communication or be very cautious. Exchange a good few messages before meeting. You may feel you've 'clicked' immediately with someone – but the more you know about a date, the better.
Ask for a photo
You could be having a great relationship online and think you want to meet face to face but do you know who you are meeting? Always ask for a picture if there isn't one on their profile, and pass it onto a friend. This sounds a little extreme but it's always worth someone knowing who you are with. This will also comfort you when you are meeting the member on a date - you won't need the traditional carnations in your top pocket!
Seek variety
You've probably spoken via email, and maybe moved to instant messenger but have you spoken on the phone yet? It may sound silly but someone's voice maybe a real turn off and you don't want to waste your time with someone who you know is a no-no before you've even started! Remember; only give out your personal numbers when you are ready, not when you're asked. Don't feel obliged.
Meeting up
At some point in some of your online relationships you may decide to meet the member face to face. Always meet in a public place, like a busy pub or restaurant and always tell a friend where you are going and how long you think you'll be. Always make your own way to a date and leave on your own. And I know it sounds hard but try not to drink too much. Being 'tipsy' could impair your judgments and if you move to a different location you may not know where you've gone.
Like in any situation, when meeting new people you don't know their background or real personality. When meeting up be conscious of any behaviour that makes you feel uncomfortable. If you aren't happy in their presence, make arrangements with a friend and leave. Remember that you are in control.
Help yourself
Regardless of where you meet someone, look after yourself when meeting new people. Always carry your mobile phone, and make sure you tell a friend where you are going - and if you move from the location you originally said. If you are unhappy about your date, make your polite excuses and leave. Don't worry about feeling bad or embarrassed about leaving your date, think about yourself and make your dating experiences fun.
We're all different
Everyone is different and some people will be happy to ask all sorts of questions, and freely give out information. Don't forget you are in control of (and ultimately responsible for) what you say and do.
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