...not getting much action on the dating scene? ...wondering why it's so hard for you to score a second date?
I know...just when you thought you had the game figured out; here you are again alone on a Saturday night bonding with your TV. No date and no action...again!
Don't worry, you're not alone; there is hope for you yet.
Believe it or not, there are several major mistakes that you should never commit on a date that most men do. Here's a rundown of the 7 Huge Dating mistakes that you should never commit.
Huge Mistake #1: The "All About Me" Syndrome
You need to watch yourself on this one. No one knows more about you than you so it's quite natural to go on and on about who else...YOU! ...and why not? After all, you are a great guy!
That may be true but she doesn't want to hear about it. As far as you are concerned, this date is about her. If she wants to know anything about you, believe me she'll ask.
Your job, especially on the first few dates, is to ask her about her. She can't wait to tell you why she's the best thing that ever happened to you. If you talk about yourself too much, you're telling her that she's not as interesting as you are and that's why you have to be the main conversation topic. YIKES! Don't expect a second date if you were the center of attention on the first.
Huge Mistake #2: Misrepresenting Yourself
OK...I'm sure that this one is fairly self-explanatory. Don't fluff the package. She's already agreed to go out with you and that's already saying a lot. You don't need to pretend to be someone you're not.
Think about it! After you've lied about who you are, now you have to perpetuate that lie by living it or risk her finding out that you're nothing but a fraud. This type of thing will hamper any relationship...don't you agree?
If she doesn't think you are good enough to date, then she's not the one for you. Remember, it's easier to tell a lie than it is to live one.
Huge Mistake #3: Giving Up Too Much Information (T.M.I.)
Once again, you have to learn when to stop talking. She doesn't need to know your entire history, especially the parts that include other women who are not her.
Look, it's one thing to talk about your past in context of the conversation but quite another to regurgitate your whole history just for the telling. This will almost certainly kill any mystique about you. You need to leave some things to her imagination.
This is as much a turn off to a woman as it is when a woman dresses too skimpily. If you leave her with nothing to look forward to, you will become boring in a heartbeat. If she's bored of you by the end of the first date, you will be hard pressed to score a second.
Huge Mistake #4: Promising The World
Remember these words!
It is much better to under-promote and over-deliver than to over-promote and under-deliver.
Nothing could ruin a budding relationship more quickly than breaking your word. The moment this happens, she will find it hard to trust you or feel safe with you. Don't say things you don't mean and mean the things that you say.
Instead of promising her the moon and the stars, just promise her you won't settle for mediocrity. You don't need to give her the whole world, just give her the best of yours.
It's very simple...be realistic when you make promises. Make sure you actually intend to fulfill them and whenever possible, surpass her expectations. Trust me; this will be more than enough to hold her interest.