Should women make the first move in relationships?

Date: 2007-04-25

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Holly Phillips, Columnist

I have questioned one thing in my dating years since they began six years ago: should women make the first move?

Since my past two relationships involved plenty of first moves on my behalf, I recently developed a new fantasy - to be pursued to the fullest extent.

Mr. Right, whoever he is, must be willing to make those first steps to find me, meet me, kiss me and so forth.

Until then, I have to find my own path, and I encourage the ladies to join me. Since I am currently not looking for a relationship, I see no reason to ignore a little adventure.

My intentions are harmless. Since I will graduate and move out of Baton Rouge in December, I can't start anything serious with a Southerner. I can avoid the single gal rut and pour a fresh glass of water ... or Stoli, if you prefer.

The mission is easy. Men love when women take control. It takes the pressure off them. They have it rough, you know.

A successful pass at a man involves a bar. Picture it, men: a woman walking toward you with a cold drink in her hand for you. Ladies, try Blue Moon.

It is unpredictable how the night will turn after you make your move. I've ended up in a VIP room until 6 a.m. but also at home in bed, alone, at 1 a.m.

Making the first move will fulfill your short-term goals, but there is a disclaimer. You've got to make him work for a commitment or else you'll end up in the landscape architecture studio at midnight bringing beignets to someone who doesn't care.

Taking the initiative will not ensure you a decent boyfriend, but it will guarantee a decent evening. The women call the shots. See a stallion? Buy him a drink. If he isn't what you'd hoped, find someone else. Chances are, he'll be really into you and your amazing sense of humor after the free drink. It's up to you whether you give him your number.

Men will appreciate the gesture and can send their thank you notes my way.

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