It's deceptively simple to sign up wit an online dating site, but creating a profile that attracts the right kind of person to you can be a little tricky. Does it seem like no matter what you do, the wrong people keep contacting you? Does it really matter what you put in all of those little interest and hobby fields? The answer is yes - sometimes. What you say in your headline and in the details, and how you say it can make all the difference.
A Great Headline
A great headline should sum up who you are and what you're looking for in one short and witty sentence. Some good headlines might be:
"Music is my life. Want to share my life?"
"Let's make great music together"
"Wanna rock? Only serious music lovers need apply"
"Hard core rocker looking for groupie"
The Devil is in the Details
My grandmother always said the devil is in the details and I've always found that to be true. The details of your online profile should identify what you're all about and what you're looking for in a relationship. If there are certain types of people you are absolutely not interested in, say it in your profile, but try to keep it positive. If you don't like pop music, you might say something like:
"Music is my life. To me there is only one great genre of music - Rock. If you love rock music as much as I do, let's meet. I do apologize, but if you like Pop music, I'm not going to be a good match for you. Yes, I recognize how extreme this must sound, but making great rock music truly is my life and I'm looking for someone who can appreciate this lifestyle as much as I do. Are you the groupie I'm searching for?"
As for all of those extra check boxes for hobbies and interests, those are less important unless the website has a matching algorithm that sends you potential matches based on your specific interests and hobbies. If that's the case, make sure you fill out all those fields so you'll get the best matches.
Some People Just Won't Get It
Unfortunately, there are some people in this world who will never read the instructions no matter how clear you make them. For those people, you'll just have to politely excuse yourself and move on to the next profile on your list.
You don't want to get too harsh in your profile or you may drive away just the girl you're looking for. Do make sure you ask potential daters what kind of music they like and whether or not they would enjoy your lifestyle during your initial communications with them. This will at least save you a little time weeding through the one's you're not interested in.
Understanding the Law of Attraction
There is one other incredibly powerful tool that can help you in your search for the perfect match. It's called the Law of Attraction. A quick exercise that will help you find just the right person for you is to write down on a piece of paper exactly what you're looking for in a partner. Try to focus more on how you feel when you're with this person and less on their physical appearance. Having said that, if you love redheads, write that down, too.
Imagine your perfect partner in every detail. Write it down. Every night before you go to sleep, close you eyes and visualize or imagine being with this person for at least five to ten minutes. Really get into it. What are you doing together? How do you feel when you're together? What do you hear? What do you smell?
This will get your message out to the Universe. Now it's your job to act on any hunches, gut feelings, or intuitions you get over the next few weeks. If you get a weird urge to stop by a store you've never been in, do it. If you have a weird idea to go to a museum, do it. You never know whom you might meet while following your intuition.
True love may be just around the corner.
