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But before you overdose on an entire heart-shaped box of chocolates or end it all with the thorns from a bunch of long-stemmed red roses, take heart ... there's always next year.
24 hours went looking for love in all the right places to help send a little cupid dust your way in time for 2008.
NARROW DOWN THE PLAYING FIELD
"SWM, 32, enjoys long walks on the beach and conversation," may sound sweet but would it matter if he was five foot one?
If you're wasting energy and entire evenings on someone who's not your type, let alone on the same planet, then it's time to get specific. FastLife.ca hosts special interest events for those with discriminating tastes, such women who like their men tall, dark and handsome, onus on the tall.
Tall Men speed dating invites men six feet and up to apply and sets them up with women who want a guy they can look up to, literally. Similar events are held for non smokers, smarty pants (university educated) and active types (couch potatoes need not apply.)
Meet Market Adventures, www.meetmarketadventures.com, zones in on interests rather than inches with Singles Intro to Mosksha Yoga ... Chocolate Making ... Bartending ... Snowboarding.
And for real players there's always their popular Game Nights.
PLAYING TOO HARD TO GET?
Smiling shyly beneath lowered lashes is one thing, ducking into an alley because you're having a fat day is another. And you don't need to be a rocket scientist - or a Rockette - to realize the latter isn't going to get you any dates.
J.M. Kearns, author of Why Mr. Right Can't Find You (Wiley) says women are living under dating myths. The first being men are looking for the skinny, model-type women they see on TV.
"No matter what your natural body type ... there will be men out there that like that," he says.
And he should know. Kearns wrote the book after his own adventures in dating land. "I was out there in the trenches," he says, and felt it necessary to defend men against some of the negative "men are aliens from Mars" self help books stereotypes.
Another myth Kearns debunks in his book is "There's only one guy out there for you." "That encourages women to be passive and just wait for the man to arrive into their lives," he says, when they're more likely to meet Mr. Right if they meet him halfway.
Which isn't to say women should throw themselves at every guy in a bar, but separating from the pack to give him an opportunity helps, he says. As does eye contact and a smile.
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