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Single men are starting to cave.
My friend Will told me he wants a girlfriend.
Will, 23, is the epitome of bachelor life. In previous years Will dated frequently, but the girls he dated were less than great. They were the typical psycho girlfriends; the ones who pick screaming fights and come back crying hours later.
I'll never forget when he made dinner for his girlfriend. The night ended with her plate shattered everywhere. Mashed potatoes were smeared on the walls after she threw her meal across the room.
Since then Will moved to Colorado hoping to snowboard instead of date. For years his plan worked. But as of last weekend, he changed his mind.
"I decided I want a girlfriend," he said. "I am getting old, and I want something stable."
Will's situation is not unheard of. One day men are
living single and loving it; the next morning they feel lonely.
This decision is frequently paired with age. Men feel that a certain age defines "settling down."
I don't know how someone goes about looking for a partner. I am a firm believer that girlfriends and boyfriends come around exclusively during unexpected moments.
After all no one wants to appear desperate. You're more likely to find someone while you're caught up with your own life rather than during a search for "the one."
Will doesn't know exactly who he is looking for. Like most people he has learned from his previous experiences, but it is impossible to paint the exact picture of a future love.
You'll never find me searching for a boyfriend, but for those of you like Will, I have one piece of advice: Always remain faithful to your standards during the hunt. You don't want to end up with someone lame just to have a companion.
Will, I wish you the best of luck as you jump back into the dating world. You know better than anyone that it can be tough, and that there is someone out there for you. But whoever she is, don't cook her dinner.
by Holly Phillips
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