Here are his six simple steps to love:
1 Be honest with yourself
"Start by taking a clear, firm look at your past relationships," Jacques advises. "Find the common patterns and identify the ones you want to break," he says. Once you've ascertained where you've gone wrong in the past, you're set for a smoother future.
TAKE CHARGE Make a list of all your exes. Next to each name write down the reasons you're not still together. This will help you avoid repeating unhealthy patterns and mistakes.
2 Change bad habits
If you've identified bad habits, the next step is to make a pledge to avoid them in the future. To stay true to that pledge, Jacques advises reminding yourself of your intentions daily.
TAKE CHARGE Set aside five minutes every day to recap your planned changes and to assess your progress.
3 Think positive
"We attract as much love as we're willing to receive," explains Jacques. To open yourself to that love, he recommends visualising your ideal situation. Once you've created a scenario in your mind, it's easier to recreate it in reality.
TAKE CHARGE Visualise the details: what you would do together, how he would treat you and what you would treasure about him.
4 Look inside
Write down the qualities you want in a man and nurture those qualities in yourself. "Do you value compassion? Then extend compassion to yourself and others," says Jacques.
TAKE CHARGE Give yourself the experiences you'd like to share with a partner. Don't wait for Mr Right to do a cooking course. Do it on your own! Besides, you never know who you might meet.
5 Enhance yourself
When you meet someone new, play to your personality strengths. "Choosing your conversation is like choosing an outfit," says Jacques. "But we sometimes forget to put the same effort into conversation."
If you make your friends laugh with your cheeky sense of humour, allow him to see that side of you. But, says Jacques, don't feel the need to expose your less positive side. Early dates are no time to offload problems or sob stories.
TAKE CHARGE If you want to draw someone into your life, don't focus on your flaws or past failures. "The most attractive human quality is charisma," says Jacques.
6 Get into his head
When you've found someone you want to reel in, it's time to start the seduction process. "Reveal yourself slowly," Jacques advises. "You want someone to be wondering about you night and day." Seduction involves a touch of mystery, so don't divulge everything about yourself in a hurry.
TAKE CHARGE If you want someone to want you, give them something to think about and keep them guessing a little.
MIRROR, MIRROR ON THE WALL
A study shows that women who think they're beautiful are easily smitten by macho men. The more pretty you rate yourself, the stronger your preference for masculine men. Researchers say that a masculine face is linked to high testosterone levels, which demonstrates healthy genetic qualities. Women who prefer macho men are instinctively selecting good genes for their future offspring.
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