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The following posts and comments come from the iDivamemphis.com blog.
Jan. 17: Husbands? We don't need no stinkin' husbands!
A fascinating demographic trend happened in 2005: More of us are single, divorced or widowed -- in other words, not married -- than are married for the first time. And married households are now a minority of all American households. The quote that really opened my eyes, from a family researcher: "This is yet another of the inexorable signs that there is no going back to a world where we can assume that marriage is the main institution that organizes people's lives."
Is this trend a good thing or a bad thing? If you're not married, what does it say to you?
Single in Memphis said: "This article just confirms that I am not alone and single. When I talk to my married friends, they envy me. They got married for the wrong reasons or have since changed their minds about what they want to do in life and marriage is not convenient anymore.
"I do look forward to 70 when I can retire, look back, know that I did all that I wanted to do."
Cheer up, said Allie to single women who said the study was depressing. "I'd like to point out one thing about the article -- it said that most of these women WOULD BE MARRIED at some point in their lives, but that they would spend a shorter amount of time living in marriage, due both to divorce and to marrying later. So don't get depressed yet!"
From Memphis Man: "In a nation where one sex is encouraged to focus totally and completely on themselves, while blaming the other sex for all their problems, there can be no marriage and family. That's why the feminists have been trying for years to redefine both."
From thanks, i'll hide over here: "Okay, I know all single mothers are going to try to rip me apart for saying this, but by every measurable standard, statistically, children from single-parent households do worse, even after adjusting for income. If you want to remain single for your own sake, that's no one's business but your own. But don't pretend your kid is just as well off without his father as with him."
From Cynthia: "I've been married and I've been single (for 16 yrs.) and I find both to be overrated. I hope to marry again someday, but I won't settle for just anyone who offers to make me a bride. I have a career, house, car, friends and family... I don't have to settle for anyone less than what I consider to be an ideal life partner and I won't do it just because I'm pushing 40. I have faith that the right person and the right decision will come easily, at the right time. Until then, I enjoy my single life and the little things I'd likely have to give up when I do marry... like wearing flannel to bed, eating breakfast for dinner and watching 'CSI' nonstop."
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