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Most of us have experienced the push and pull of dating. Two people meet, they start to explore things, and before long, the majority of your free time is spent together. Then one of you gets spooked and starts to pull away. Or maybe they decide they have a stronger connection with someone else.
Sometimes, single people like to keep their options open as much as possible. If there isn’t a serious relationship, then many feel it’s open season. That is when the ever so lovely shady behavior rears its head. How can you tell if someone you are dating is shady? Since I have both pushed and pulled guys around (and vice versa) let me share a few signs!
Inconsistent behavior. Sweet consistency, that is what the ladies love. When guys are reliable, consistent, and upfront about things, especially in the beginning he pretty much gets taken seriously a lot faster. If a guy has a string of inconsistent behavior, women tend to question the reason behind it. Blame it on our intuition or call it paranoia, but a lot of the times, we have good reason to be worried. Ladies, also pull the “evasive” behavior when they are weighing their options with other guys. So guys, if your girl becomes vague, dodges questions that she usually had no problems answering before, then it’s possible she is being shady for a reason.
When will I see you again? Suddenly not available on the weekends, can often signal the prime time date hours are being spent with someone else. New interests usually require weekend committment, so you may want to question how many weekend nights are actually spent with the fellas or the girls.
My name is not Susan! Constantly bringing up names of other people they are dating. It’s tacky, childish, and quite unnecessary. If someone tries to play mind games like this, they probably aren’t the best candidate for a honest, meaningful relationship. If your guy or girl is pulling this stunt, run for the hills and tell them to grow up.
How do you handle the push and pull in dating? Does it seem as if single people are apprehensive about putting all their eggs in one basket, so to speak?
What do you think constitutes as shady dating behavior? How do you handle it when this happens?
Do you think single people act shady because they have lost interest or is it perhaps par for the course in dating?
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