The word dating promises fun and excitement. It promises romance and who knows other pleasant surprises- flowers, romance and other wonderful things. There’s that warm glowing feeling in the morning as you anticipate your next date.
But there can be negative adjectives added to dates too. The disasters of a bad date could be avoided if one is careful and smart enough to read the tell-signs that preceded one. It’s all about the person you’re dating, you see. He or she exhibits some signs that are quite telling of an unhealthy relationship. When you see one it would be more prudent to avoid them as early as possible.
Let’s look for these signs. Or more precisely, what are these types of people that you should be aware before entering into any sort of relationship?
* The One on the Rebound. We’re talking about a guy or a gal who just came from a heartbreaking relationship. This person could be just be looking for anybody who would make him or her forget about his or her recent relationship. Your well-being as a person is the least on his or her mind. He/she might be looking for someone to make up for his bruised ego. You don’t want to enter into a relationship with someone who is not interested in who you are. He/she is still in a bad previous relationship.
*The First Person. This type is easy to see. He or she is a megalomaniac and during a date he or she always talks in the first person- about himself. Sure, he or she might listen to what you have to say, but will he or she be paying any attention? He/she is waiting for you to finish so that he can carry with his story. Or, he or she is waiting to your reactions to his exploits or achievements. A relationship is supposed to be a mutual thing. What good is a partner who’s more concerned about his or her affairs than yours, right?
* The Conditional Date. They’re the ones who are so correct. They are fixated with technicalities like, “What would we call ourselves? Sweetheart, darling, baby or honey?” This guy or gal will make sure that yours is an open relationship and that you are free to see each others if you like. “I could only meet you every weekend, past 5 p.m.” They impose so many things on relationships which have yet to be finalized. Do not be swayed by their tactics. Impose what you want as well, give them a piece of your mind. If they’re cool with it, then swell. But if they’re not, you’re better off with someone else, believe me.
* The Freeloader. Unfortunately, these dates are more prolific among guys from whom some chivalry is expected. Going Dutch is alright. Treating him once or twice is acceptable. But him asking you to pay for the bill every time? Are you willing to be sugar mommy for the rest of your days?
* Megalo’s Anti-thesis. A date should be fun, and it should promise a wonderful and exciting relationship. But this guy or gal is anything but that. Don’t try too hard. He is not worth it.
Here’s the last word. Dating is best taken as a trial run for a possible relationship. When such a person shows some signs that manifest any of the personality types we have discussed above, you better think twice. You wouldn’t want to get stuck in an affair that might prove unfruitful after all, right?