This is a sensitive topic and as such a disclaimer, so you are hereby warned that what you’re about to read might not be pleasant to your beliefs. Some of the things that will be discussed in this article may be painful. Some may even be considered improper and even be dismissed as condemnable. But the truth is, affairs with married men are a reality. This article is written for the party who is often left neglected in similar discussion about this subject: the other woman.
If you should find yourself under such a situation, then you know what’s happening. Your friends will have told you what to expect. Your family, or at least the members who know of your predicament will have told you to desist from the same. You will have resorted to some professional help and they will all in unison in saying that you shouldn’t. But in case you didn’t listen to them believing that your heart is perceiving the truth, and telling you to fight for your love then.
The only and only best advice for a woman in an affair with a married man is “DON’T”.
But when such a universal advice is not heeded, how are you supposed to deal with such a relationship? Surely, dating a partner who has his wife and family isn’t an easy experience to endure. Hence, here are some things which you should realize, consider, and observe.
* In a relationship of this sort, there are many people involved, more than just the two of you. You will have to deal with the guilt of inflicting emotional pain on his spouse and kids. Though you could convince yourself that what they don’t know wouldn’t hurt them but the fact is that what you’re doing would most certainly ‘ruin’ them. When you’re playing with hearts, you’re playing with lives, and such is a very sensitive matter. Many lives are ruined because of the pains of the heart.
* Further, dating a married man entails a lot of restrictions. You cannot be seen in public places together. He can only call when he could find the time away from his family and friends. You cannot visit him at the workplace. These can be too much to bear for anyone.
* It also entails a lot of sacrifices. Though you may be hailed for the capacity of your heart to extend such amount of love, remember you will receive no praises. You cannot have him all for yourself, you know that much. And though it takes an extraordinary kind of love to pursue such a course, you will still encounter a lot of pains along the way.
* You will be stigmatized with a lot of condemnable titles. This is another reason why you should keep the affair a secret. This could be too much to take for most people. You will have to muster enough internal fortitude to deal with this kind of life. Can you?
* A married man may not even contemplate on leaving his spouse. And even if he is indeed thinking about filing a divorce, you would still have to live with the guilt of being a party to a process that ruined a family.
This article does not intend to judge you. The situation is already there, and you have to deal with it. These are some truths which you should know, or truths which you already know though you’d rather not think about them.
You have to, however conjure enough strength to face the true issues, so that you won’t have to regret the acts you are doing today.