The thought of starting with anonymous emails to getting an actual date can be exciting. Let's find out how it works. From initial attraction to a face to face date, it's important to take your time. It takes time to build trust, to get to a first real date. What to do? Here's how to start:
• Meet your date Online
• Edit your profile for more fun
• Chat with your favourites
• Email Others
Here are five practical tips to get email and then to live dates:
• First, talk on the phone. Ok, the other person's picture looks fine, but it important to know the other person on the phone. It may be that they look great, send nice emails, but are hard to understand, or sound like "something's not right." Listen to your instincts. Talk to them on the phone, at least a few times, before agreeing to meet them in person, in a very public place.
• Questions to get started with? Here's a few icebreakers that you'll want to know about in your emails and phone call to that other person: 1) what do you like to do on your weekends? 2) Do you like to go out a lot, or stay home? 3) What do you like best about someone you're dating? 4) When you eat out, where do you like to go?
• Ask them honestly: After a few emails and a couple of phone calls, you may be ready to meet them in person. It's up to the both of you. If they are evasive or hesitant to meet, ask them why. It may simply be shyness on their part. As long as you can phone them without problems, that may be fine. But, also look for red flags.
• Ask them frankly about their ideas. After talking on the phone a few times, you should know whether or not you'd like to meet. Make plans, in a safe public place. Here are our safety tips for ideas.
• Getting ready for a new romance and starting it is both thrilling and a time of great uncertainty. Myself, I prefer finding a woman who's both a friend and someone I'm attracted to. From a photo and description, to "first contact" by email, to phone call and then meeting in person, is lots of fun. Being ready to meet someone also needs juggling your schedule a bit, as dates take up time.
• How often should I email or call them? While you don't want to seem overly desperate, you don't want them to think you're not interested either. Finding a middle ground depends on what each person feels comfortable with. One woman may want to send emails twice a week, another, every day. Part of becoming a good dating partner is finding out who you're compatible with.
Receiving Emails: It's disappointing if an email isn't returned within 24 hours. It also looks over-eager if emails are returned within 2-3 hours. So, finding a middle ground is vital. Same goes for phone calls - always return calls within 24 hours, but don't call back immediately, unless you're on familiar ground with that special person you're talking with.