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As people are living longer and changing their ideas about old age, more seniors are dating than ever before and are finding an increasing number of ways to meet new sweethearts.
As people are living longer and changing their ideas about old age, more seniors are dating than ever before, experts say. But many older people find that the rules of the game have changed drastically since the last time they dated, four or five decades ago.
These days, seniors are as likely to meet through online dating services or singles cruises as bingo games. Older women are confidently setting boundaries -- such as refusing to cook or clean for a man -- even though older single women greatly outnumber older single men. And while bringing protection once meant a purse full of mad money, seniors must now be aware of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases.
The senior singles scene will only grow as baby boomers -- the oldest of whom are 60 -- reach their golden years.
According to the 2000 U.S. Census, there are seven men for every 10 women over 65. Moreover, because women live longer on average, nearly 45% of women over 65 are widowed, compared with fewer than 15% of men, according to the census.
Seniors face a number of unique dating challenges, experts say. They may feel out of place at bars or dance clubs. Those who are retired may have fewer opportunities to interact with new people. And physical impairments, such as not being able to drive at night, may put a crimp in their social lives.
Yet seniors are finding an increasing number of ways to meet new sweethearts. Online dating services can be a secure and nonthreatening way for seniors to meet, said Kristin Kelly, a spokeswoman for Match.com, a popular dating site. The number of baby boomers using the website has jumped 350% since 2000. Other seniors meet prospective partners through clubs, volunteer activities or trips.
Senior centers hold many events that enable older people to get together, including the popular "Seniors'Prom."
Many senior women are quick to say that although they would like to meet a new friend, they aren't looking for a serious relationship. Older women often associate marriage with cooking, cleaning and a loss of autonomy. And adult children often pressure their mothers not to date.
Sexuality among the elderly can be an uncomfortable topic.
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