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Do you think being over 40 means you’re done with dating? Well, not quite. Here are some tips to get you back into the game
Trying to start a romance at a mature age can pose a challenge. Whether you have been through a divorce or lost a spouse, there is still a chance to find love again. According to research, the over- 40 segment is one of the largest group of singles on Internet dating sites. Being single is no longer considered a social stigma and no matter your age, you can find similar-minded people.
However, getting back into the dating game can be tough. Everyone has anxieties about meeting new people. Just take it step by step. All you need is a little change in your attitude. It's best not to get into dating with the hope of finding 'the one'. Instead, take it from date to date. After all, life is about trying new things and having fun.
Most older singles are generally worried about being alone. If you fear ending up alone, you are likely to rush into a relationship before time. Instead, try dating a number of different people and take your time before making a commitment. Be open to meeting new people and give them a chance before passing judgment. Make sure your past relationships don't hinder your attitude towards your new relationships. Each new person you meet is different and deserves a fair chance.
HANDY TIPS
Re-invent yourself
It may seem superficial, but giving yourself a physical makeover can do wonders. Get a new hairstyle, go on a shopping spree or try shedding that extra weight at the gym. Once you begin to feel good about yourself, you will automatically attract others. You don't need to go through a drastic change—just make yourself feel more confident. It's not about looking half your age, but about looking great at your age.
Start a Conversation
There is no need to be shy. If someone catches your eye at the store, smile and start talking. You can talk about anything from the happenings in the city to the weather. Don't worry about sounding stupid, just get a conversation flowing and you never know where it may lead.
Try new activities
Be open to trying your hand at various activities. Join a cooking class or dance course to meet potential dates. Volunteer with an organisation or community service, you will not only be working for a good cause but can meet interesting people too. The best way to meet other people is by getting out there.
Get a buddy
There is no need to venture into the world of dating alone. Find a friend to help you through. Get him/her to write you a profile online. There are hundreds of people dating online. Organise a party with your buddy. Invite all your friends and tell them to get their friends too. It's a good way to network and meet others. You can always take advice and confide in your close friends about potential dates — this will help make the process a lot more easier.
Have a good time
Go for a variety of different events. Don't restrict yourself to dating within your social circle. The important thing is to make sure you're having fun. Don't take it too seriously. Remember, the more people you meet, the more potential dates to choose from.
• ‘There are more older singles looking for love than younger ones’
- Vinta Nanda, Writer-director
There are lonely people in all age groups - it doesn't matter whether you are in your 20s, 30s or 40s. There are always singles that are ready to give and accept love. Everyone is looking for a relationship, so finding love in your 40s is very normal. People have fixed perceptions of a socially acceptable age to find love, which is what poses a problem.
I have found love at every stage of my life. The relationship may not last forever but you can remain friends. I am still in touch with my first boyfriend. We are good friends even though our relationship ended when I was 17. Since then, I have been in other relationships and each new relationship has brought love and happiness in my life.
It is important to be open to change and not restrict yourself. In fact, I think there are more older singles looking for love than younger ones, hence it is not very difficult to find someone. You should be willing to meet new people and put yourself out there. Use your past relationships to learn from your mistakes, but at the same time go with the flow.
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