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Men cite the agony resulting from family events as the main reason for marital discord and women their husbands’ career failure, a straw poll shows. The nationwide poll of 524 divorcees bent on a second marriage found that 24.4 percent of male respondents said that family events were the biggest reason for arguments with their wives before their divorce, while 44.2 percent of female respondents cited their husbands’ lack of business acumen.
The poll was conducted by dating agency Only You, which caters mainly to the divorced, via e-mail and the Internet. For men, the second biggest reason was having their first baby (19.5 percent,) followed by problems arising from their parents and siblings (17.1 percent) and career failure (14.6 percent). Among female respondents, 21.8 percent numbered their husbands’ investment failure, followed by troublesome family events with 14.8 percent and having a first child with 10.9 percent.
Asked what irked their former spouse most during marriage, 25.6 percent of men cited their own continuing consideration and affection for their parents and siblings rather than focusing on their own nuclear family, followed by excessive housework for women due to memorial events and family gatherings with 20.5 percent. Failure to express love and failure of the sexual relationship came next with 15.4 percent, and the husband’s habit of squirreling away part of his salary with 10.3 percent.
Among women, 26.7 percent guessed their husbands were most unhappy when they came home late without telling them, while 19.8 percent said they were most criticized for lack of consideration for their in-laws. Next was women’s negligence in preparing memorial services and family gatherings (16.7 percent) and housework (13.3 percent). Men mainly seek advice from their friends when deciding on divorce (32.4 percent) and women from their parents (29.0 percent).
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