It is quite natural to develop some kind of fondness for the person you have been dating. We just keep thinking and talking about him/her even after being in his/her company. The obvious question that comes to our mind is: am I in love?
Although, love is a wonderful thing, it is sometimes equated with infatuation. It is something that we should be certain about. Spending sleepless nights in thoughts and confusion is not love. It may just be some kind of deep infatuation for the person.
Then how do we certain ourselves whether it is love or not. Here are some signs that would help us determine as to whether we are indeed in love or not.
1) When you are already filled with thoughts of the other person like: what he/she is doing, how he/she is looking, what you could do to make him/her smile today, how will share with him/her something good or nice that has happened to you. You always wish that he/she would be right there with you, but even if he/she isn’t, it’s okay because you know that soon you will be together. You know that every minute spent with him/her will not be wasted.
2) You become selfless when you start thinking more about what would be good for the other person, than what would be good for you. Your main intention is to make the other person happy, whether it is with you or with another person. You try to take care of him/her and keep looking out for him/her. You also make every attempt not to hurt the other person. You don’t ask that person to do sacrifices for you either, such as doing stuff you asked them to do just to prove their love to you.
3) You then start thinking of being with this person forever and start to relish that dream or feeling. The thought of spending the rest of your lives together is considered to be a very wonderful idea.
4) With other more beautiful and attractive people around, you still choose to be with him/her. This shows your full commitment towards that person. You have fully and undeniably decided to be with only him/her no matter what. It is not only love, but also devotion.
5) Even after the infatuation period of six months, the passion and firework still exists. Being together for such a long time and still feeling the fire burning is a clear sign that there is true love between you and your partner.
6) There is a desire to understand each other, even at the biggest of arguments. You communicate openly and do not harshly judge each other. You accept each other’s faults and shortcomings. For example, no matter how fat she gets or how much he drools when he sleeps, you still love the person and stay true and honest to that person.
7) There is a great deal of respect, admiration and trust for this person.